Can you care for something without changing it?

By Christa Ryan <christaryan@yahoo.com>

I believe that it is impossible to care for something without changing it. When a person cares for someone they may give extra and even try harder to accomplish a certain goal. This is human nature. I believe that even if you don't consciously try and change something, even your own actions and personality can influence and change others. By caring for someone we are opening ourselves up to hurt and disappointment. In order to prevent this we try and change things and make them the way they ought to be. When you care for something do you treat it the same as you would something you dislike? Even if you think you aren't making a difference, deep down you have somehow changed someone or something in some sort of way. You may not realize it or see it at the moment but in some way it has been changed.

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Your Name <Your E-Mail>

This is very true- especially the part about our personality influencing those we care about. Very well put together!


Tiffany Norton <TiffNorton@Hotmail.com>

^Oops! The one above is mine.^


Eric Howell <grayghost13@hotmail.com>

Excellent Paper! I thought it was well written, and that you had alot of insight into what you were writing about.


J.W. Preston <wednesday@emeraldis.com>

A very interesting essay. You went the extra mile to let the reader know how you felt about the issue!


Scott Elingburg <kehoutek@hotmail.com>

You made a very good point wiht your paper. I agree that even if we believe we are not trying to change someone, deep down, in some small way, we are.


brian nettles <ned _creeper>

I also agree with your deep insight on the subject. good work


travis galloway <hyperdedo@hotmail.com>

Paper... mmmm... nice work here... I agree with you... in various relationships, its fun to see how the "combatants" change each other to suit themselves...


Will Mulkey <wrmulkey@hotmail.com>

I agree with you completely. It is impossible to care for things with out changing them.


Anna C. Nance <eirendel@yahoo.com>

I agree that it is impossible to care about something and not change it; the act of caring itself changes whoever you care about.


Peter Rutanga <wung32@hotmail.com>

Good paper! But think about this: You love something for what it is, approach it and thus change it; the question now is... do you still like what it is? And when you don't care about it, does that mean we don't change it?


Woody Moore <wouldhe@inetgenesis.com>

Good paper, I enjoyed reading it.


Richele Skelton <skelton@emeraldis.com>

I totally agree with your ideas. It is impossible to love something without atleast trying to chnge it. Good Paper!


shaun cutler <cutlershaun@hotmail>

good paper, enjoyable.


Preston Garner <pgarner@meta-net.net>

Good ideas. you put it very well.


Will Bond <wbond@meta-net.net>

I agree with you fully, and your thoughts were brought across brillantly.


FranSanders <FranSanders@hotmail.com>

I agree with your thoughts.


Dowd <rdowd@lander.edu>

It seems to me that caring or disliking something is gonna change it.. it's just a matter of course. An action has a reaction, whether we want that way or not. So, yes, I concur.